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Sex, Lies and Social Studies?
First, I’d like to thank Tammy for allowing me to post this at her site. Because of the many things I’ve posted regarding my children and our activities, and the number of Muslims I’ve pissed off, I’d like to keep my identity and my locale unknown. But . . .
My little town of Brighton, Colorado is within the scope of the national and international media. I mostly grew up here and a large percentage of the population here are life-long residents. The kids we grew up with are now the parents of the kids our kids are growing up with. We’re a small, albeit not as small as when we were growing up, rural farming community with a current population of about 30,000.
This event, combined with this event has left our little town with quite the black-eye as of late.
My oldest son actually had both Carrie McCandless and her husband Chris, as teachers years back. I enrolled him in the Charter school because on a state level, Charter schools had excellent reputations. There were some overcrowding issues at the high school, so we felt that the Charter school was a better option.
That school never quite had their ducks in a row. Carrie McCandless failed my son, even though he had passing grades. Her reasoning was that he hadn’t absorbed the material and she wanted him to do summer school. Their option for summer school was a private tutor who was a teacher at the Charter School who intended on charging me $1,500 for my son to pass that course. I said no, enrolled him at Brighton High School and he took that course in the summer school program the following year.
About a year after he left that school one of my son’s friends let it slip that my son had been called into the principal’s office and threatened by the administration for calling another boy a “fag”. This young man was indeed gay, but had been coming onto my son, and in my son’s frustration he told him “leave me alone you fag”. A teacher overhearing this immediately sent my son to the office. I was never contacted, never informed in any way of this event. Had I known I would have been in the office threatening them. Essentially my son was being sexually harassed and was defending himself. I know of several parents with children enrolled there who always felt as if they were never properly informed of events.
They have always been behind academically, they have a high administration turn-over rate and have never had the best reputation in town. They have been a thorn in the side of the 27-J District, taking funds that could have been used for them; and now because of these incidents the district has the option of canceling their contract with the Charter school, and this they will most likely do. I have a dear friend who sits on the Charter school board and I’m anxiously awaiting anything he has to say.
But in the overview of the situation, I just hope that the world does not judge Brighton by these two incidents. We are a little town, with traditional values and deep roots. We are family.
This event, although disturbing, is not the worst possible situation. I have received many e-mails from my male friends and just got off the phone with another male friend who have all stated to me that really, this is the male fantasy. As disgusting as that might sound to some, it is true. Being a mother of three sons and having deep insight into the male mind, I’m not concerned about the mental health of the 17 year-old boy involved here.
The larger issue lies with women such as Carrie McCandless and their reasoning of this December/May pedophilia. What is missing in their lives? What is missing in our society that takes away the fear of this criminal act? Gone are the days that individuals suffer on the public level with the indiscretions in their lives. If it feels good, do it. In the meantime our town developed a negative reputation and many people have been hurt. I do hope justice is served here; I hope that she does indeed serve jail time. And the boy? I hope that his view of women is not now distorted.
Serious thoughts about the issue of more and more pedophiles, including woman, in schools as teachers.
I seriously wonder if this is a result of liberalism and liberals in the schools. We know that liberals dominate the educational system, from grade school through college. Liberals who have had the attitude of “if it feels good, do it, regardless of the consequences” since the late 60′s.
We rarely had these kinds of problems when I was in grade school in the 70′s, and high school in the early 80′s, at least not that was in the news. Nowadays it seems like at least once a month there is an issue like this, and notice that liberals have moved farther and farther to the left.
The Left also doesn’t generally see this kind of behavior as criminal, but, rather, as physiological and psycological conditions. So, they need help, not incarceration, according to liberal doctrine. A slap on the wrist, then a shrink.
Of course, also have to consider that with todays 24 hour news cycle and internet access, stories like this are easier to find and make it national, as well.
Am I just being sensitive or does it seem like most of these creatures are blonds?
We’ve got enough problems without this new stereotyping.
This is from Darlene at Christian Women Online; her comment wouldn’t post.
Mitz (Can I call you Mitz?)
I tried commenting, but it wouldn’t go through. I’ve been having computer trouble, so maybe my computer is causing a problem.
I said:
Mitzi, it’s interesting how views are changed when roles of women and men are reversed, and I’ll admit–especially when the criminal is good looking. Oddly this scenario seems more innocent when in actuality it is a pervert harming a child.
The story of your son reminds me of my own. In grade one, a boy kept on kissing him at recess. My son told him that if he didn’t stop then he wouldn’t be his friend any longer. I didn’t know until the following year that my son got in trouble for handling it this way. Argh! Keep blogging Mitzi!
Darlene
These women will NEVER be served justice as long as grown men keep on winking and snickering about “yeah, that’s my kinda teacher.” You know damn well there’d be hell to pay if it were a hot male teacher and a teenage daughter, but when it’s this kind of thing, it’s OK?
So it’s their fantasy. Big deal, their time is over for that, if they’re not in school. At that point, they should be adult enough to understand that you have to draw a damn line. Otherwise, quit the charade and change the laws to say “sex is ok for boys over 14 (or whatever), but girls must be 17.” Unfair? Damn right it is, and it ought to put their own attitudes in perspective!
I really don’t care if men think it’s great! that some kid is getting some from the teacher; it’s still wrong, and men who think it’s a good deal are, IMHO, unfit to be parents.
Ah Beth, I always love your cut through the BS style. It is wrong, period; but I don’t think that attitude is likely to change anytime soon. Eh.
Beth took the words right out of my mouth!
And thanks, Mitzi, for posting your viewpoints on this – I hope your community doesn’t suffer too greatly for the acts of one woman.
If justice were truly blind this woman would serve jail time and live in disgrace. But, thanks to the liberals who would rather call people like this errants rather than criminals, (check out an organization named CURE) this is, to some, a victimless crime.
When the president can have sex in the oval office with someone young enough to be his daughter and the majority of people wink at it as he lies about it, what do you expect to see happen in the rest of society? We have lost the ability to be ashamed and we have lost our moral character. Despite what the left will tell you, character does matter.
Yeah, what Beth said. When I read crap like that, from grown men especially, I just want to puke!
Mitzi. Thanks for your post. My son attends BCS. We are new to the school. My son also is not doing well but I’m hoping the second half of the year goes better. I’m afraid he’ll also be facing the prospects of summer school in order to graduate. Ugh the difficulties of being a single mom raising teenagers.
Dawn, get your boy out of there.
((Wondering if I know you; Mitzi is not my real name.))
To BobG: You state that “If justice were truly blind this woman would serve jail time and live in disgrace.”
It seems that if there were any JUSTICE at all, then this woman (Carrie McCandless) would not be tried and convicted to jail time (and disgrace) in your mind before she has had the constitutional right to a fair trial. You talk about justice, but it seems as if you need to check yourself before you go spouting off at the mouth about what you know nothing about.
Mitzi -
Dawn is not my real name either…well its my middle name.
We’ve only been there just this year. Were you at the meeting last week? Drop me an email at BCSMom@gmail.com.
Dawn (winky wink)
oops…my email is BCHSMom@gmail.com
Dawn
Geez Alice, I don’t have enough time to tell you how wrong you are. At this point they are now confirming that she had intercourse with him.
She won’t receive a fair trial, because she’s a pretty blond; period. With a wink and a nod, she’ll get off. Women like her are not considered a threat.
Mrs. McCandless actions to and from the courthouse yesterday while the news cameras were rolling were so bizarre and inappropriate, I’m at a loss for words. Any thoughts on this rediculous behavior?
It’s really too bad that the parents of the 17yo boy did not do a better job raising him. Instead they are blaming their failure on society, liberals and trying to brag about small town famly values. Well look at what you produced – a typical horny adolescent who took advantage of a very wrong situation. He failed, he took the wrong choice. You failed, because he took the wrong choice. I guess you never taught him any better – what was he doing accepting a drink? Have you never taught your 17 year old about drinking? drugs? sex? Apparently not.
So what is your opinion? Is it every male’s fantasy or an offense the teacher should do time for?
Nobody outside your town cares about the reputation of your schools. This was a crime of one individual who might have been educated anywhere. In your race to defend your way of life and your town, you seem to overlook that this event can and is happening in all types of towns in the US, and that there are real victims. I would hope the primary concern would go to the victims and their families first.
As far as your son is concerned, you make it sound as if anything he did to defend against sexual harassment would be warranted. Two rights making a wrong. It sounds like his using hate speech on the other kid was an escalation compared to what the other kid was doing to him. It looks like you have some christian friends in here and I sincerely hope you ladies steer clear of moral relativism in the upbringing of your tidy suburban children.