Paul Vincent Barbaro
September 10, 2006
I became involved in the 2996 project because I wanted a chance to do something different this year…a chance to celebrate a life lost, rather than sitting here crying. Of course, I’ll still sit here and cry…I do every September 11th. But I’ll also be honoring a specific person…and reading about everyone else.
Paul Vincent Barbaro was born on May 27th, 1966, to Carol and Nicholas Barbaro. He was born in Concord and lived there until moving to Dongan Hills when he was a teenager. He graduated from St Peter’s High School in 1984, then attended the College of Staten Island, graduating with a degree in computer science in 1988. After a year at Goldman Sachs in Manhatten, he moved on to Columbia University, earning a master’s degree in computer science in 1991.
Paul met his wife, Kim, when he was a teenager, they dated for 7 years before getting married in 1992. At the time of his death, he had two young sons, Paul,5, and Joseph, 2. From all accounts, he was a doting daddy, and his children adored him. He was excited about the future, and loved the little things…birthdays, his home, and holidays with his family. He enjoyed taking his family on vacation whenever he had a few days off. He and his wife had just bought a new home in Holmdel, New Jersey, and had only been in it for a month.
Paul was a strategic development software engineer for eSpeed, the elctronic trading platform of Cantor Fitzgerald. His office was on the 103rd floor of Tower One. He had only worked there for ten months. He was, friends say, considered one of the industry’s premier programmers. He’s been described as a perfectionist, and it appears that this came out on the job, as well as in his family life. He sounds to me alot like my own husband, and I wish I could have had the honor of knowing him.
I’d like to end this post with a tribute written by his wife, Kim. She can say it far better than me.
Born and raised in Staten Island, New York, Paul and I dated for seven years before marrying in Nov.1992. Our first son, Paul, was born in May 1996 and Joseph was born in Jan. 1999. We moved to Holmdel, New Jersey in August of 2001.
Paul graduated from St. Peter’s Boys High School and the College of Staten Island where he received a BS degree and later received a Master’s degree from Columbia University, both in computer science. He was extremely talented and his passion for his career enabled him to work on a number of high profile projects for many firms, the last being Optimark Technologies before joining eSpeed in Dec. 2000.
Paul was a beautiful man who always had a happy outlook on life, a man who was strong in both character and stature. He was a wonderful, loving husband, incredible father and my best friend. His talents were endless and he was successful in all his pursuits. Paul and Joseph will be overwhelmed with pride, as I am, when they think of him. He was a natural teacher. Most importantly, Paul had his priorities straight. He had a strong faith and looked forward to coming home and spending time with his family every day. Paul and Joseph will stand tall when they think of him: intelligent, strong and compassionate. To think of all his good qualities and the guidance his family will miss makes his absence immense. Paul and Joseph will be in awe of their Dad, as he will be of them. Nothing can ever change what we have been and will always be to each other.
Love Always,
Your Wife, Kim
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My name is Tammy. I'm a 45 year-old married mother of three teenagers, living in my version of paradise, also known as SW Florida. I can tend to be opinionated. My political views lean to the right. I'll think of more later, lol.
September 10th, 2006 at 9:30 am
A wonderfully written post and dedication, Tammy.
September 10th, 2006 at 11:33 am
2996 tribute to victims of 9/11 – Terrence E Adder…
Before 9/11 the only view I had of the New York City skyline was from the top floor of my home in New Jersey. On any day I could look out the window and see the upper 30 floors of the World Trade Center.
When both buildings disappeared from view t…..
September 10th, 2006 at 11:36 am
As a programmer myself I identify very strongly with Paul.
I linked to your tribute from 2996 tribute to victims of 9/11 – Terrence E Adderley
September 10th, 2006 at 11:51 am
Thanks for introducing me to Paul, Tammy.
September 10th, 2006 at 2:20 pm
As you wrote this and reading this I can just imagine Paul with his children celebrating birthday’s and playing with his children. Being with his wife and all the things a happy family do. Thank you Tammy for this wonderful Tribute.
September 10th, 2006 at 4:09 pm
Me, too. Every September 11th I go to a particular website, listen to the haunting melody, and bawl as I watch the pictures of those who were killed that day… And I am so glad to have been able to do something else this September 11th. (Though I will do the other too.)
I appreciated your tribute to Paul and enjoyed reading about him.
We should remember. And what better way to remember than by celebrating their lives.
I celebrated the life of Laura Gilly.
September 10th, 2006 at 7:04 pm
Thank you for sharing this man with us. He is not a number but a real person. Wonderful tribute to a loving husband.
Please stop by my tribute to Gilbert and leave a link and comment so that others can come here to read.
September 10th, 2006 at 7:42 pm
Absoultly beautiful. Well done Tammy. And your right…this sure has a way of brining old friends together! I honored the life Of John A Hofer.
September 10th, 2006 at 9:31 pm
Thank you Tammy, for your tribute to Paul Vincent Barbaro. It was an honor to meet such a man.
September 10th, 2006 at 10:56 pm
This is beautiful. Thank you so much for all your time and effort that you put into the tribute.
September 10th, 2006 at 11:06 pm
Nice job Tammy. I have to limit myself to reading these tributes because I just can’t take it.
September 11th, 2006 at 12:46 am
Tammy, this was a really nice tribute to Paul. Taken away from his family far to soon. May we never forget this day!!
My tribute is also up on my blog.
September 11th, 2006 at 9:01 am
Thank you for doing this…
September 11th, 2006 at 9:01 pm
That was beautiful Tammy, take a deep breath and know you did honor this man.
September 11th, 2006 at 9:26 pm
Beautifully written tribute!
I also had a Canter Fitzgerald family member…So I want to be sure to visit yours and all the other CF tributes!
July 29th, 2007 at 7:50 pm
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September 11th, 2009 at 8:28 pm
thank you for posting this up.
my family appreciates everyone remembering my cousin Paul.
we miss him so much<33